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aruanSpent yesterday in a wonderful haze of food and Rake At The Gates Of Hell. Lance! In case I haven't said that often enough in the recent past.
Don't talk to me about pictures without links, people. A whole fandom flips its shit and no one has a single link? Preposterous.
Came into $200. Well, not exactly, as it was the security deposit on my apartment in France, but still! Two hundred bucks out of the clear blue sky. That's pretty cool, especially since the birthday money went strictly to bills and necessary clothing. I'm thinking of getting a bunch of stories bound into a book. How much does that run?
Staci, Miranda, and I saw The Brown Bunny at the Hippodrome last night. Uh, why do I still get to pick our movies? That was essentially indie porn, which is to say, we had a bunch of angsting, shots that went on forever, very little dialogue, a bunch of symbolism, weird music, and about three minutes of anything actually happening at the end. Now, granted it was a good blowjob in many aspects, not the least of which was by virtue of the lead actor's cock alone, but it was not worth the rest of the film.
Yesterday was also Dine Out For Hurricane Relief night at a bunch of local restaurants. Organized by the Florida Restaurant Association, certain restaurants agreed to donate all their profits to a fund for victims, and we did our part at Friday's, wherein Miranda and I ate burgers the size of our heads and we talked way too loudly about the Alligator office, Lost continuing to be Lord of the Flies because of the boar slaying, and a really hilarious bit about organs. The kind in your body. You had to have been there.
Had my handwriting analyzed here. Results and commentary:
For a graphologist, the spacing on the page reflects the writer's attitude toward their own world and relationship to things in his or her own space. If the inputted data was correct [Jules] has no white space or margins on a typical sheet of paper. [Jules] fills up every last inch on the top, right, left, and bottom. If this is true, then [Jules] has a very aggressive personality toward others and quite frankly lacks a bit of respect for the space and property of other people.
Not space. I'm pretty sensitive about that sort of thing, as I'm pretty touchy about mine. Same for items - I'd want my stuff back as I gave it, ergo same for those who lend.
[Jules] finds plenty of reasons to break the rules and get in trouble. (Okay, perhaps when she was younger, not anymore?) Basically, people with no margins are a handful.
Uh, what about disregarding the rules in the first place? I just have such disdain for most of them, as they're largely arbitrary and geared toward the lowest common denominator, my feelings on which will be more completely revealed below.
[Jules] has a very unusual lower-zone Y loop. If the data input is correct, [Jules'] Y or G is large and has triangle shape to the lower loop. This is not a common trait, but the implications are very interesting. As you begin to study handwriting analysis, you will learn any loop indicates imagination. This lower loop indicates the amount of imagination [Jules] has regarding sex and physical things. So, her lower-zone stroke is large, so her sexual imagination is large and open. Furthermore, because the loop has a triangle shape, this indicates a particular curiosity with certain aspects of sexuality. In a nutshell, [Jules] is open to some very new ideas sexually and is willing to try anything once. I'd say [Jules] is quite a dynamic and playful lover.
I'm a sensualist, it is true. Yes to the curiosity as well, but it doesn't extend to anything just because it's new and different. I'm amenable to lots of things if the other person thinks they'd be good and I have no pre-existing qualms, but there are lines, and there are certain things I've heard/read about that I don't ever wish to personally experience.
One way [Jules] punishes herself is self directed sarcasm. She is a very sarcastic person. Often this sarcasm and sharp-tongued behavior is directed at herself.
True. My sarcasm is largely directed at myself and people who incur my wrath, but also those whom I love the most, because there are just far too many people who take things to heart or too literally.
[Jules] is a practical person whose goals are planned, practical, and down to earth. This is typical of people with normal healthy self-esteem. She needs to visualize the end of a project before she starts.
Which is usually all that keeps me going as I get bogged down in the details along the way.
She finds joy in anticipation and planning.
So.much.joy. And heartburn, indigestion, and all kinds of stomach problems, but overall, joy.
Notice that I said she plans everything she is going to do, that doesn't necessarily mean things go as planned.
Rarely, if ever. I'm a control freak in a chaotic world.
[Jules] basically feels good about herself. She has a positive self-esteem which contributes to her success. She feels she has the ability to achieve anything she sets her mind to. However, she sets her goals using practicality - not too "out of reach." She has enough self-confidence to leave a bad situation, yet, she will not take great risks, as they relate to her goals.
Fair enough. It sometimes takes a lot to set my mind to something, but once that happens, I don't think I've ever well and truly failed. I may not have done the best, but I'm pretty good on my feet. It's all in your head anyway.
Although there is room for improvement in the confidence category, her self-perception is better than average.
Very true. Although a bit perverse.
Because [Jules] has needle-pointed M and N humps, she has a very sharp mind. She instantly sizes up situations, making instant decisions. She thinks and evaluates circumstances very rapidly. Many people with this type of mind are geniuses, thus she may be seen as highly intelligent. [Jules] is often irritated by slow talkers or slow thinkers. She quickly becomes bored when being taught on the level of the slowest student in class.
My mom told a story once about my coming out of a dance class at age six or so and saying to her, in front of everyone else's mothers, that I thought the other girls were slow, stupid, and lazy. I didn't say this out loud at the dance classes I took later in life, but I won't deny thinking it. Though to be fair, a lot of the girls were there because their mothers wanted them to be instead of loving it in their bones like I did, but I still resent the fact that they wouldn't try and the class not getting to do more complex choreography because they were not willing to put in the effort. I'm not judgmental about little things, like the stuff catty girls talk about, but I have peeves. Let me do what I can do or suffer the wrath of my stifled potential.
In fact, in school she might have been a trouble maker because she thought so much faster than the other kids, she finished her work first, thus having plenty of time on her hands to make trouble!
Uh, I would just be bored. A lot. Yeah, that was pretty much elementary school for me.
Diplomacy is one of [Jules'] best attributes. She has the ability to say what others want to hear. She can have tact with others. She has the ability to state things in such a way as to not offend someone else. [Jules] can disagree without being disagreeable.
I think this is where it would come in handy if my self-perception wasn't quite so good - I feel no need to exercise these skills because I feel no need to state my opinion or the topic at hand any differently than I see it for the benefit of my audience.
[Jules] will be candid and direct when expressing her opinion. She will tell them what she thinks if they ask for it, whether they like it or not. So, if they don't really want her opinion, don't ask for it!
Ah, there it is. Just needed to read a line farther.
[Jules] will demand respect and will expect others to treat her with honor and dignity. [Jules] believes in her ideas and will expect other people to also respect them. She has a lot of pride.
Notice they said respect, not accept. I welcome discussion, but not one that starts off as disparaging to my idea (read: me), which will raise my hackles and result in a stubborn, rude, and perhaps even loud exchange in no time at all.
[Jules] uses judgment to make decisions. She is ruled by her head, not her heart.
Absolutely true. No really, even when I delay final papers and exams because I'm screaming my fool head off at a concert venue halfway across the country, it's a rational decision arrived at evaluating every variable. I do things because they are feasible, practical, and harbor acceptable risks. They may not be the "smartest," objectively, but the personal repercussions of not doing it would far outweigh that aspect.
She is a cool, collected person who is usually unexpressive emotionally.
Except when I squeal at decibels damaging to the ears of everyone within a good 30-foot radius of me, jump up and down, blush fiercely, and/or express body language enough to SCREAM across a room.
She does have emotions but has no need to express them.
On the very, very contrary. I may not feel certain emotions when social cues would normally dictate them, which would consequently mean I have occasionally inappropriate responses I don't necessarily share with the class, but I'm far from what you could call unemotional or unexpressive about them.
She is withdrawn into herself and enjoys being alone.
Uh, I do occasionally make the choice to be alone, yes, but mostly, I'm happy when my roommates come home, and I like going to my noisy, busy office. More specifically, I don't like crowds or being forced to be with people or sharing my things or group work and have a good amount of social anxiety around people I don't know, but then I also breathe oxygen like everyone else on this planet.
If someone gets her mad enough to [make her tell him/her] off, she will not be sorry about it later.
This takes a lot but is absolutely true when it finally happens.
She puts a mark in her mind when someone angers her. She keeps track of these marks and when she hits that last mark she will let them know they have gone too far.
I don't "keep score" like this about any other aspect of my life, but this is true.
She is ruled somewhat by self-interest.
Aaand we're back to breathing oxygen.
All her conclusions are made without outside emotional influence.
Didn't anyone ever tell you absolutes and sweeping generalizations are [almost] always wrong? On the SATs, at least. Also, it's called I have need-for-approval issues even if I say otherwise, which does keep me from doing things if the anticipated emotional response is unfavorable.
She is very level-headed and will remain calm in an emergency situation. In a situation where other people might get hysterical, she has poise.
True. I'd do well in a burning building, but let's not test that theory.
[Jules] will work more efficiently if given space and time to be alone. She would rather not be surrounded by people constantly.
Well, if I'm working, people tend to be a distraction to that end. But no, I wouldn't rather be surrounded by people constantly, although there are a very few certain people I'd keep around all the time simply because I enjoy their presence (and the ready availability of their company once said work was completed).
In a relationship, she will show her love by the things she does rather than by the things she says.
An example of this is my bad habit of buying things for people, one acquired from, shockingly enough, my father.
Saying "I love you" is not a needed routine because she feels her mate should already know. The only exception to this is if she has logically concluded that it is best for her mate to hear her express her love verbally.
God, that makes me sound like Spock. But it's not the least bit untrue, either. Once it's been established, I don't need to hear it, nor should I have to say it, not if we're all doing things right.
[Jules] is not subject to emotional appeals. If someone is selling a product to her, they will need to present only the facts.
True.
She will meet emergencies without getting hysterical and she will always ask "Is this best for me?"
Interesting that you should include those two things in the same sentence. Wouldn't emergency situations necessitate that sort of thinking? Cool I may be, but the self-preservation instinct is still there.
People that write their letters in an average height and average size are moderate in their ability to interact socially ... indicating a balanced ability to be social and interact with others.
It probably takes a bit more energy and planning for me than most people, but I do fine.
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walkingshadow wisely decided to drop her Japanese history class, which means we had our first morning of getting ready together, then regaling the bus of waking up writing country songs (me) and waxing rhapsodic about the cold front that necessitated long-sleeved shirts (Miranda), then going to our respective single periods of class. Friday would be so, so easy to skip, but we were good. This time. Which was cool, as we discussed copyright with musical excerpts in Law of Mass Comm, where we first laughed at Prof Alexander for singing along to Ice Ice Baby then were berated by him a few moments later when he noticed we were all singing along under our breaths.
Spent the afternoon in large part downloading LotRips footage, and man, are those boys all in polyamory or what? Then had a brief nap beneath my open window, and what makes cool air smell so divine I haven't a clue, but thank god winter is here at least for today.
Miranda and I both had to change before going out, as there's just no looking at adjacent red and hot pink without offending the better senses. But then there were bounties of Mexican food and characterization discussion and finally, finally Starbucks, even though the Pumpkin Spice Latte ended up being much too sweet for my taste. Ryan, a fellow copy editor at the Alligator, was our cashier and assured that my beloved gingerbread would be here soon enough. After a discussion of Asperger's, a fascinating form of high-functioning autism, M and I went next door to Maude's, where she kicked my ass at Scattergories, but there was honey for our Earl Grey tea and around 50 degrees when we stepped outside and exhaled 'e' adjectives joyously, watching our breath fog up the air in front of us, and it was all good.
[ETA: That Sting likes his hooker songs, eh?]
Don't talk to me about pictures without links, people. A whole fandom flips its shit and no one has a single link? Preposterous.
Came into $200. Well, not exactly, as it was the security deposit on my apartment in France, but still! Two hundred bucks out of the clear blue sky. That's pretty cool, especially since the birthday money went strictly to bills and necessary clothing. I'm thinking of getting a bunch of stories bound into a book. How much does that run?
Staci, Miranda, and I saw The Brown Bunny at the Hippodrome last night. Uh, why do I still get to pick our movies? That was essentially indie porn, which is to say, we had a bunch of angsting, shots that went on forever, very little dialogue, a bunch of symbolism, weird music, and about three minutes of anything actually happening at the end. Now, granted it was a good blowjob in many aspects, not the least of which was by virtue of the lead actor's cock alone, but it was not worth the rest of the film.
Yesterday was also Dine Out For Hurricane Relief night at a bunch of local restaurants. Organized by the Florida Restaurant Association, certain restaurants agreed to donate all their profits to a fund for victims, and we did our part at Friday's, wherein Miranda and I ate burgers the size of our heads and we talked way too loudly about the Alligator office, Lost continuing to be Lord of the Flies because of the boar slaying, and a really hilarious bit about organs. The kind in your body. You had to have been there.
Had my handwriting analyzed here. Results and commentary:
For a graphologist, the spacing on the page reflects the writer's attitude toward their own world and relationship to things in his or her own space. If the inputted data was correct [Jules] has no white space or margins on a typical sheet of paper. [Jules] fills up every last inch on the top, right, left, and bottom. If this is true, then [Jules] has a very aggressive personality toward others and quite frankly lacks a bit of respect for the space and property of other people.
Not space. I'm pretty sensitive about that sort of thing, as I'm pretty touchy about mine. Same for items - I'd want my stuff back as I gave it, ergo same for those who lend.
[Jules] finds plenty of reasons to break the rules and get in trouble. (Okay, perhaps when she was younger, not anymore?) Basically, people with no margins are a handful.
Uh, what about disregarding the rules in the first place? I just have such disdain for most of them, as they're largely arbitrary and geared toward the lowest common denominator, my feelings on which will be more completely revealed below.
[Jules] has a very unusual lower-zone Y loop. If the data input is correct, [Jules'] Y or G is large and has triangle shape to the lower loop. This is not a common trait, but the implications are very interesting. As you begin to study handwriting analysis, you will learn any loop indicates imagination. This lower loop indicates the amount of imagination [Jules] has regarding sex and physical things. So, her lower-zone stroke is large, so her sexual imagination is large and open. Furthermore, because the loop has a triangle shape, this indicates a particular curiosity with certain aspects of sexuality. In a nutshell, [Jules] is open to some very new ideas sexually and is willing to try anything once. I'd say [Jules] is quite a dynamic and playful lover.
I'm a sensualist, it is true. Yes to the curiosity as well, but it doesn't extend to anything just because it's new and different. I'm amenable to lots of things if the other person thinks they'd be good and I have no pre-existing qualms, but there are lines, and there are certain things I've heard/read about that I don't ever wish to personally experience.
One way [Jules] punishes herself is self directed sarcasm. She is a very sarcastic person. Often this sarcasm and sharp-tongued behavior is directed at herself.
True. My sarcasm is largely directed at myself and people who incur my wrath, but also those whom I love the most, because there are just far too many people who take things to heart or too literally.
[Jules] is a practical person whose goals are planned, practical, and down to earth. This is typical of people with normal healthy self-esteem. She needs to visualize the end of a project before she starts.
Which is usually all that keeps me going as I get bogged down in the details along the way.
She finds joy in anticipation and planning.
So.much.joy. And heartburn, indigestion, and all kinds of stomach problems, but overall, joy.
Notice that I said she plans everything she is going to do, that doesn't necessarily mean things go as planned.
Rarely, if ever. I'm a control freak in a chaotic world.
[Jules] basically feels good about herself. She has a positive self-esteem which contributes to her success. She feels she has the ability to achieve anything she sets her mind to. However, she sets her goals using practicality - not too "out of reach." She has enough self-confidence to leave a bad situation, yet, she will not take great risks, as they relate to her goals.
Fair enough. It sometimes takes a lot to set my mind to something, but once that happens, I don't think I've ever well and truly failed. I may not have done the best, but I'm pretty good on my feet. It's all in your head anyway.
Although there is room for improvement in the confidence category, her self-perception is better than average.
Very true. Although a bit perverse.
Because [Jules] has needle-pointed M and N humps, she has a very sharp mind. She instantly sizes up situations, making instant decisions. She thinks and evaluates circumstances very rapidly. Many people with this type of mind are geniuses, thus she may be seen as highly intelligent. [Jules] is often irritated by slow talkers or slow thinkers. She quickly becomes bored when being taught on the level of the slowest student in class.
My mom told a story once about my coming out of a dance class at age six or so and saying to her, in front of everyone else's mothers, that I thought the other girls were slow, stupid, and lazy. I didn't say this out loud at the dance classes I took later in life, but I won't deny thinking it. Though to be fair, a lot of the girls were there because their mothers wanted them to be instead of loving it in their bones like I did, but I still resent the fact that they wouldn't try and the class not getting to do more complex choreography because they were not willing to put in the effort. I'm not judgmental about little things, like the stuff catty girls talk about, but I have peeves. Let me do what I can do or suffer the wrath of my stifled potential.
In fact, in school she might have been a trouble maker because she thought so much faster than the other kids, she finished her work first, thus having plenty of time on her hands to make trouble!
Uh, I would just be bored. A lot. Yeah, that was pretty much elementary school for me.
Diplomacy is one of [Jules'] best attributes. She has the ability to say what others want to hear. She can have tact with others. She has the ability to state things in such a way as to not offend someone else. [Jules] can disagree without being disagreeable.
I think this is where it would come in handy if my self-perception wasn't quite so good - I feel no need to exercise these skills because I feel no need to state my opinion or the topic at hand any differently than I see it for the benefit of my audience.
[Jules] will be candid and direct when expressing her opinion. She will tell them what she thinks if they ask for it, whether they like it or not. So, if they don't really want her opinion, don't ask for it!
Ah, there it is. Just needed to read a line farther.
[Jules] will demand respect and will expect others to treat her with honor and dignity. [Jules] believes in her ideas and will expect other people to also respect them. She has a lot of pride.
Notice they said respect, not accept. I welcome discussion, but not one that starts off as disparaging to my idea (read: me), which will raise my hackles and result in a stubborn, rude, and perhaps even loud exchange in no time at all.
[Jules] uses judgment to make decisions. She is ruled by her head, not her heart.
Absolutely true. No really, even when I delay final papers and exams because I'm screaming my fool head off at a concert venue halfway across the country, it's a rational decision arrived at evaluating every variable. I do things because they are feasible, practical, and harbor acceptable risks. They may not be the "smartest," objectively, but the personal repercussions of not doing it would far outweigh that aspect.
She is a cool, collected person who is usually unexpressive emotionally.
Except when I squeal at decibels damaging to the ears of everyone within a good 30-foot radius of me, jump up and down, blush fiercely, and/or express body language enough to SCREAM across a room.
She does have emotions but has no need to express them.
On the very, very contrary. I may not feel certain emotions when social cues would normally dictate them, which would consequently mean I have occasionally inappropriate responses I don't necessarily share with the class, but I'm far from what you could call unemotional or unexpressive about them.
She is withdrawn into herself and enjoys being alone.
Uh, I do occasionally make the choice to be alone, yes, but mostly, I'm happy when my roommates come home, and I like going to my noisy, busy office. More specifically, I don't like crowds or being forced to be with people or sharing my things or group work and have a good amount of social anxiety around people I don't know, but then I also breathe oxygen like everyone else on this planet.
If someone gets her mad enough to [make her tell him/her] off, she will not be sorry about it later.
This takes a lot but is absolutely true when it finally happens.
She puts a mark in her mind when someone angers her. She keeps track of these marks and when she hits that last mark she will let them know they have gone too far.
I don't "keep score" like this about any other aspect of my life, but this is true.
She is ruled somewhat by self-interest.
Aaand we're back to breathing oxygen.
All her conclusions are made without outside emotional influence.
Didn't anyone ever tell you absolutes and sweeping generalizations are [almost] always wrong? On the SATs, at least. Also, it's called I have need-for-approval issues even if I say otherwise, which does keep me from doing things if the anticipated emotional response is unfavorable.
She is very level-headed and will remain calm in an emergency situation. In a situation where other people might get hysterical, she has poise.
True. I'd do well in a burning building, but let's not test that theory.
[Jules] will work more efficiently if given space and time to be alone. She would rather not be surrounded by people constantly.
Well, if I'm working, people tend to be a distraction to that end. But no, I wouldn't rather be surrounded by people constantly, although there are a very few certain people I'd keep around all the time simply because I enjoy their presence (and the ready availability of their company once said work was completed).
In a relationship, she will show her love by the things she does rather than by the things she says.
An example of this is my bad habit of buying things for people, one acquired from, shockingly enough, my father.
Saying "I love you" is not a needed routine because she feels her mate should already know. The only exception to this is if she has logically concluded that it is best for her mate to hear her express her love verbally.
God, that makes me sound like Spock. But it's not the least bit untrue, either. Once it's been established, I don't need to hear it, nor should I have to say it, not if we're all doing things right.
[Jules] is not subject to emotional appeals. If someone is selling a product to her, they will need to present only the facts.
True.
She will meet emergencies without getting hysterical and she will always ask "Is this best for me?"
Interesting that you should include those two things in the same sentence. Wouldn't emergency situations necessitate that sort of thinking? Cool I may be, but the self-preservation instinct is still there.
People that write their letters in an average height and average size are moderate in their ability to interact socially ... indicating a balanced ability to be social and interact with others.
It probably takes a bit more energy and planning for me than most people, but I do fine.
walkingshadow wisely decided to drop her Japanese history class, which means we had our first morning of getting ready together, then regaling the bus of waking up writing country songs (me) and waxing rhapsodic about the cold front that necessitated long-sleeved shirts (Miranda), then going to our respective single periods of class. Friday would be so, so easy to skip, but we were good. This time. Which was cool, as we discussed copyright with musical excerpts in Law of Mass Comm, where we first laughed at Prof Alexander for singing along to Ice Ice Baby then were berated by him a few moments later when he noticed we were all singing along under our breaths.Spent the afternoon in large part downloading LotRips footage, and man, are those boys all in polyamory or what? Then had a brief nap beneath my open window, and what makes cool air smell so divine I haven't a clue, but thank god winter is here at least for today.
Miranda and I both had to change before going out, as there's just no looking at adjacent red and hot pink without offending the better senses. But then there were bounties of Mexican food and characterization discussion and finally, finally Starbucks, even though the Pumpkin Spice Latte ended up being much too sweet for my taste. Ryan, a fellow copy editor at the Alligator, was our cashier and assured that my beloved gingerbread would be here soon enough. After a discussion of Asperger's, a fascinating form of high-functioning autism, M and I went next door to Maude's, where she kicked my ass at Scattergories, but there was honey for our Earl Grey tea and around 50 degrees when we stepped outside and exhaled 'e' adjectives joyously, watching our breath fog up the air in front of us, and it was all good.
[ETA: That Sting likes his hooker songs, eh?]
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Date: October 16th, 2004 04:01 am (UTC)http://photobucket.com/albums/v33/majrow/SMAP/
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Date: October 16th, 2004 04:16 am (UTC)Seriously, this is what I'm a morally deficient, privacy-invading creep for wanting to see? Man, LotRips really is a young fandom - I forget that *NSYNC fandom has been around and through a few things. This has nothing on the Freddy pictures, personally. What are people up in arms about? Just that they're pictures taken with the expectation of privacy?
*shrug* But thanks for the link. I'm just really, really underwhelmed right now.
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Date: October 16th, 2004 04:43 am (UTC)There are apparently more private ones taken by Elijah when he was in Prague and of houses he was loking at.
What are the Freddy pictures about? I've heard descriptions of them playing cards and Justin flipping off the camera. Could you please email them to me at pinguo83@yahoo.com? Thanks. (http://www.livejournal.com/users/snellios/139958.html)
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